|Korean Rich Culture|
Second I like their culture and traditions. Culture and language are inseparable; you cannot learn a language without studying and understanding its culture and sometimes its history. Korean have a rich culture and history, their monarchy, army, hanbok, soju, and Cheryl blossom flower (I know Sakura or Cheryl Blossom is from Japan, but I still include it anyway). I’m fond of all of it, no need to add their advance education and technology.
However, like a cliché, nobody’s perfect. There are still some things about their culture that I am having a hard time to accept (what? Accept?) Or maybe understand. I’ll enumerate a few:
1. Meeting the Parents – In Philippines, usually meeting the parents happened as early as courting stage.
On girl’s side- the parents want to know who’s courting their daughter (at ayaw kasi nilang nililigawan ang anak nila sa kalye.)
On guy’s side – girl will actually meet the parents a few months after they were on the relationship.
Next to this is meeting of both parents and it’s an instant one big family.
This is definitely not the case in Korea- because the only time you will meet the parents is when you are getting married, yep, to get the parents’ approval. Meeting the parents is a big deal in Koreans because it means marriage. So asking for permission to get married is HUGE. It is one of the scariest, intimidating, and one of the nerve-wrecking experiences a woman will go through. It’s like having a picnic, a picnic on hell! You’ll have to cross the fire just to get married. It is easier to go through the eye of a needle than to pass the standard of your future in laws. Well if they will like you then it is another story. But if you’re in doubt you have to be prepared to be scrutinized and judged by your potential partner’s family.
|From the movie Dangerous Meeting|
Parents’ Approval – Parents approval is so hard to get. It is as if you will snatch their son from them. It doesn’t matter if their son is having 5 years steady-relationship, if they don’t like the girl- then it’s a dead end. Korean will always choose their parents over their girlfriend. They seek their parents’ approval of everything, even their choice in career, and their future wife. There are no “Romeo & Juliet” type love stories in Korea. Parents’ approval is something sacred for them, no, I think they really value their parent's opinion. Unlike in Philippines we will surely choose our love than our parents. We have this kind of line – the-love-conquers-all and the hahamakin ang lahat masunod ka lamang drama.
Those romantic hero that you've seen and fall in love with on movies and TV series were all lies. Including those you-and-me-against-the-world and I-will-carry-you-on-my-back-up-to-the-end-of this-earth were only on movies and TVs.
|one of the popular Korean drama - Stairway to Heaven|
There are so many things about Korean that most Filipinos don’t know, misconception and misunderstanding.
This is only a part of my exciting culture Up-close edition.
This is all based from what I've read and from a friend’s experience. This is on general concept and nothing on this article indicates that All Korean is the same.
And I still love Korean culture anyway.